Looking back these seem to stem from conditioning
1. Toddler fostered in grand mother's home it was vogue to have sibling birthed before the elder child learns to speak. Children are more articulate with parents then when away from them.
2. Kid under constant compliance imposed by parents who could occasionally wielding threatening objects from stick to combs to overlord.
3. Attention and Resource competitor in a younger sibling.
4. Lack of chances provided to make choices in life myself.
5. Surrounded by too many mindshare people and hardly any heart sharing ones.
Touching someone's heart needs a lot more time and courage besides resilience to disappointment.
Mindshare is easy hack because there is no attachment apart from that boxed interaction.
Gossips are prime tool to get a mindshare and that requires connotating things. Besides the watercooler, tea time, smoke or alcohol cohorts blend well for game of mindshare.
When you touch heart you are connected for life and you touch mind you are transactional. Values are built by people who touch hearts and it is built to last. In a world that has attention deficit this will real challenge. Well so many like me prefer to live in short moments then relish long life.
Longing to have another go to for a heart share, start soon because the early the better.
